COUN 502 Discussion 6-Reply 2

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The below assignment has been written by another student. Please read it very carefully and reply to it by providing at least 250 meaningful words, APA format, at least one in-text cite and from at least one academic resource and biblical source. Textbook-Broderick, P. C., & Blewitt, P. (2015). The life span: Human development for helping professionals (4th ed.). Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson. Thanks (Kim)
As a mother of two grown children, I vividly remember my husband and I driving away from the dorm the day we left our youngest child at college. Although we were going to miss our son, we were excited to begin the “empty nest” phase of our life together. Our excitement soon faded after our son did poorly his first year of college and had to move back home. Although our son was chronologically 18 and had become a legal adult, he was in no way ready to “launch.” The term “failure to launch” refers to an adult child staying at home, still dependent on the support and care of his/her parents (Clinton & Trent, 2009). In my son’s case, although he did “launch” so to speak, he returned back home after his dismal first year of college. Clinton and Trent (2009) refer to an adult child born between 1975 and 1987 that left home, lived on their own, and then returned back home again as products of the Boomerang Generation. Whether young adults never leave home or leave and then return, there’s no doubt that it seems to take longer to grow up today than it did in earlier points in history (Broderick & Blewitt, 2015). This is evidenced by the timing of marker events, such as the completion of formal education, getting married, and becoming a parent, as criteria for adulthood. Research indicates that there’s a tendency to delay transitions into adulthood as evidenced, for example, by the median age for first marriage, which is 26. 5 years for brides and 28.7 for grooms. Barely half of all adults in the U.S. are married (Cohn, Passel, Wang, & Livingston, 2011). Although the aforementioned events signaled the passage into adulthood in the past, accepting responsibility for the consequences of one’s actions and making independent decisions are now considered the two most important qualifications for adulthood (Arnett, 2000, as cited by Broderick & Blewitt, 2015). Why are young adults delaying or abandoning all together the notion of getting and/or staying out of the family home? Lebowitz(2016) proposes a “dependency trap” at play which means that the behaviors of the young adult and the parents are mutually reinforcing. Once either side tries to alleviate the condition, the aggravation sets in. This really boils down to anxiety. Lebowitz(2016) points out that anxiety is a factor that triggers and maintains the dynamic of interpersonal dependence and that avoidance is the natural response to anxiety. Maybe a young adult is actually scared to go out on his own, so he avoids leaving the comfort and familiarity of family. The difficulty in coping drives the young adult to increased dependence on the parents, who in turn provide negative reinforcement for the avoidance through their accommodating behaviors, and a self-sustaining cycle of avoidance and accommodation ensues (Lebowitz, 2016). In this week’s video presentation, Brooks (2014) talks about how socialization is lacking in young people today. Although young adults possess a large amount of information, they are socially immature. They are unable to form relationships that are required in adulthood. Again, it is easier to stay or return to the comfort and familiarity of home. Personally, I feel that we’ve spoiled our children by giving them everything, and when they get out on their own and realize they have to work hard to obtain all the comforts they enjoyed at home, they’re overwhelmed. Therefore, they decide to stay home and live off mom and dad. I love this quote by Grace Ketterman: “Releasing young people into today’s world is a panicky process. This process can be made more reassuring when parents remember that they are transferring them from the shelter of their parental wings to the perfect care of the heavenly Father” (Clinton and Trent, 2009). Exodus 20:12 says: “Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you” (New International Version). We want our children to honor us by living productive lives the way God intended. Lebowitz (2016) proposes we do away with the term “failure to launch” and acknowledge the distress and underlying issues that may cause a young adult to retreat from an independent life. By the way, my son was only home a few months. He ventured out on his own and eventually returned to college, earned his degree, and is now happily married with two beautiful children. I proclaimed back then and proclaim to this day Romans 12:12: “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer” (NIV).

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