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Since beginning this class and studying the readings, I have become aware of several areas of interpersonal communication in which I require growth. One specific need that I have identified is self-disclosure. My husband and I have always been very open with one another and others have commented on how great we communicate with one another. Although I can easily open up to him and share my thoughts, feelings, fears, and other humbling details, I find this extremely hard to do with those outside my immediate family, particularly with those I work with and those I hardly know. Just as the text suggests, perhaps it is because I fear rejection and would rather have no reaction from others than a negative reaction (Stewart, 2012). Although I am not shy and consider myself somewhat outgoing, self-disclosure is risky, and I have never been comfortable with a high level of openness with others. As an S/C type, others expect me to be security-oriented (Carbonell, 2008). This falls in line with my fear of self-disclosure.
The readings provide detailed benefits of self-disclosure and explain its importance in building healthy personal and working relationships. As someone who is working toward a career in counseling, I find it extremely important to be able to disclose to others. If I expect others to disclose and be open with me, I should be willing, and able, to do the same in return. I had a conversation with one of the associate pastors at my church about my struggle with this and how I could overcome my hesitation. He provided a great analogy in describing how self-disclosure is revealing, freeing, and somewhat similar to confession, or the communication of information about one’s self to another. He then reminded me that I am able to overcome anything, and in doing so, I should turn to prayer and guidance from the Lord. Romans 8:37 is also a great source for us and states, “In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us (NIV).”
Reference
Carbonell, M. (2008). How to solve the people puzzle: Understanding personality patterns. Blue Ridge, GA: Uniquely You Resources.
Stewart, J. (2012). Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication (11th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.